EVE'S MESSAGE

“Just one small positive thought in the morning can change your whole day.” Dalai Lama

Hello my dear. How are you feeling today? Are you feeling down? Are you spreading good vibes to improve someone’s day? Are you looking for inspirational quotes to get you through a tough week? Here’s a little boost today and every time you feel down. My blog is here to give you a little push to get you going and work your way back to the top.

Take a look at these motivational quotes that can lift your spirit, spark a positive smile on your face and inspire you to pursue your goals. They are just a reminder of how lucky you are to wake up each day and thank God for giving you the privilege to be alive, to think and to love.

Let’s get right into it!

Life

“Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance, you must keep moving.” Albert Einstein

“Once you replace negative thoughts with positive ones, you’ll start having positive results.” Willie Nelson

“Every day may not be good but there’s something good in every day.” Alice Morse Earle

“People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” Maya Angelou

“You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, and there’s still going to be somebody who hates peaches.” Dita Von Teese

“Be someone you want to be around.” Anonymous

“I like to use the hard times in the past to motivate me today.” Dwayne Johnson

“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life.” Steve Jobs

“The future depends on what we do in the present.” Mahatma Gandhi

“In three words, I can sum up everything I’ve learned about life: It goes on.” Robert Frost

Love

“Love yourself first and everything else falls into line.” Lucille Ball

“Love all, trust a few.” William Shakespeare

“You had me at ‘hello’.” Jerry Maguire

Happiness

“The most important thing is to enjoy your life – to be happy – it’s all that matters.” Audrey Hepburn

“Some people call me crazy. I prefer the term happy with a twist.” Anonymous

“Happiness is the highest form of health.” Dalai Lama

Resilience

“Resilience is knowing that you are the only one that has the power and the responsibility to pick yourself up.” Mary Halloway

“You never know how strong you are, until being strong is the only choice you have.” Bob Marley

“The greatest glory in living lies not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.” Nelson Mandela

Fear

“If your dreams don’t scare you, they’re not big enough.” Ellen Johnson Sirleaf

“Don’t give into your fears, if you do, you won’t be able to talk to your heart.” Paulo Coelho

“FEAR has two meanings: 

Forget Everything And Run. 

Face Everything And Rise.” Anonymous

Strength

“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.” Mahatma Gandhi

“Nothing is more beautiful than the smile that has struggled through the tears.” Demi Lovato

“Do not pray for an easy life, pray for the strength to endure a difficult one.” Bruce Lee

Success

“Success is not something to wait for, it is something to work for.” Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

“Keep your eyes on the stars, and your feet on the ground.” Theodore Roosevelt

“Success is no accident. It is hard work, perseverance, learning, studying, sacrifice and most of all, love of what you are doing or learning to do.” Pelé

Work

“The expert in anything was once a beginner.” Helen Hayes

“A dream doesn’t become a reality through magic; it takes sweat, determination and hard work.” Colin Powell

“You’ve got to get up every morning with determination if you’re going to go to bed with satisfaction.” George Lorimer

Hope

“Hope is important because it can make the present moment less difficult to bear. If we believe that tomorrow will be better, we can bear hardship today.” Thich Nhat Hanh

“Be persistent and never give up hope.” George Lucas

“Hope lives in those who believe in it.” Buddha

God

“Always, everywhere God is present, and always He seeks to discover Himself to each one.” A.W.Tozer

“When I am afraid, I put my trust in You.” Psalm 56:3

“But when you ask, you must believe and not doubt, because the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind.” James 1:6

Can you identify yourself with any of these motivational quotes? It turns out most of them have such a powerful effect on our minds and emotions and are often timely in many situations. They allow us to reflect on our decisions in life, process bigger ideas towards a positive path and motivate success.

I hope you get some inspiration from reading these snippets of wisdom to give you the strength, to keep moving forward during difficult times in your life. Fuel your dreams with all these wise words and continue to take on new challenges with a positive mindset. Furthermore, they also remind us that we are not alone in our struggles. And no matter what life throws at you, quotes are priceless sources of guidance to introduce you into your routine and help you feel better. And hopefully, determinedly, today, you are turning your aspirations into achievements.

Be miserable or motivate yourself, positively. It’s your choice. xo

With love,

Eve Roséy

ER Jar of Notes: “You treat me good, I’ll treat you better.” ~Eve Roséy~

Dearly beloved, I am hoping that our topic this month sparks your interest and the answers are what you would like to hear.

Get ready and play your background song, e.g. “How long will I love you…” as you start reading this blog…

(E-Sender One)

Hi Eve Roséy,

Please call me Anonymous. I’m 36 and in a relationship with my partner. My question is: what is your view about platonic relationships and platonic friends? Do you think it is one of the causes of cheating?

Dear Anonymous,

Your question made me think and ask why lots of married men and women are into affairs these days. In today’s society, some platonic friends end up having secret affairs, that’s why it’s harder for the opposite sexes to become close friends, a lot harder than it once was.

Let’s start digging into this subject.

First, a platonic relationship does not involve just two people – you and your friend. It also involves your partner and your platonic friend’s partner or spouse. Yes, you read that right. Second, a platonic friend is the person you feel more emotionally attached to than your partner. Let’s make it clear – a platonic friend is your go-to person whenever you have a problem (it could be an issue between you and your partner or a family-related issue). There is an openness between you and your platonic friend. Let me elaborate further - sometimes, it’s difficult to tell your partner your true feelings and thoughts - but with a platonic friend, it feels easy for you to share your personal feelings and thoughts. What you need to know is, you need to be careful about sharing these feelings and thoughts with your platonic friend because it could take a wrong turn. Yes, it started as pure innocence, just a simple conversation, then more conversation over video calls and or text messages, which could open up the opportunity for you to engage in an emotional attachment. Beware. Once you start creating this emotional attachment and this platonic friend of yours becomes your escape and NOT your partner, what do you think is going to happen? How would your partner feel if you were sharing your partner/family issues with your platonic friend? Would your partner be comfortable and okay if they were in the presence of those conversations? It’s just fair to talk about those things/issues you’re going through if your partner is present or in-ear distance. If your platonic friend has an issue with this, then you need to turn around and dismiss it. Just stop. Besides, problems should be arranged inside the house, not by telling your friend/s, because it simply is biased toward your partner. Remember: you are talking and sharing your vulnerable moments with your platonic friend, instead of talking and sharing those vulnerabilities with your partner - you’re an adult, not a child. Understandably, everybody needs a friend who can make you feel heard, loved or cared for, but one thing you need to know is – not to be too friendly and avoid deep discussions with the opposite sex, especially when you feel lonely or depressed. Stop. If you haven’t done so, don’t even try exposing/sharing vulnerable experiences with a friend of the opposite sex. Instead, share those vulnerabilities with your partner. There’s nothing your spouse should not know about. Be open and transparent. Questions: the conversation/s you’ve had with your platonic friend, does your partner know about them? Is it a secret? If it’s a secret(even if that is not the intention) – it still is a secret - the enemy of intimacy, a threat to break you and your partner. There should be no room for secrets in a relationship. So, don’t be the creator of a storm in your relationship with your partner - fast forward to your second question – in most instances, this is exactly where cheating starts. Even if someone is saying that they are not trying to have physical intimacy with their platonic friend. Real talk: cheating is NOT a mistake. If someone is cheating – s/he CHOOSE to betray her/his partner. You do not go to bed with someone by accident, that is called an act of deep vulnerability. I’m going to be blatantly straightforward and say these words – s/he cannot control the itch. Yes, you read that right. Scratch that itch with your own hand, and never use someone else’s hand to scratch it for you, unless it is your partner/spouse’s hand. Do you know that an emotional attachment to your platonic friend is as damaging as physical intimacy? I also respect other people who say that emotional attachment is more damaging than physical intimacy. What do you think? Then you’re wondering why your partner’s silence is echoing around you. At this time of silence, do not dare to ask your partner where the warmth went once the fire faded to ashes. Please, know your boundaries, set clear boundaries and do not send mixed messages to your platonic friend. In addition, you do not hide text messages by mistake - it’s proof of lies and a betrayal of trust - of course, you know that. Come to think of it, if you’re not hiding anything, why do you have to worry about your phone being seen or checked by your partner? Think about this perspective before you get defensive to your partner that your platonic friend is “just a friend”. Please do not disrespect your partner. Your partner should be your best friend. If you’re hiding or keeping something from your partner, again, you already know, it is wrong. Put yourself in their shoes and imagine how they feel, then you’ll understand why they are reacting or behaving that way. Moreover, do not make your platonic friend a higher priority than your partner. Unless your platonic friend wants to create a problem between you and your partner. This time, it’s either you blow your horns out or you simply cut the thread that binds the relationship and move on without that person in your life. You move on gracefully, with the rest of your dignity. Food for thought: Their failure to cherish you is their loss. READ IT TWICE.

Bonus: Do you provide honesty and loyalty to your partner? Everyone, listen up and hear me! Are you loyal? How could you protect your partner’s emotions and mental health if you texted other women “You look beautiful”, or you texted other men “You look sexy”? Loyalty means you respect your partner’s emotions. Loyalty means you don’t do things that you know will hurt the person you love because it could ruin the bond and the connection. Don’t let the pain start to overtake the love s/he feels for you just because you have your own agenda. If you love your partner, s/he deserves the truth. If there is honesty, there is trust. So, do not question yourself why your partner changed. How can you expect peace from someone if you make her/him feel miserable? Feel this. A person can only take so much before they have to decide to cut their losses and move on. It’s amazing how the heart knows as it starts shutting down to avoid as much pain as possible. It’s draining, really exhausting, mentally. Another thing, if you let your partner experience constant heartbreak, but your partner stays (lucky you), that is what you call an act of love because your partner stays committed and your partner keeps trying to make things work. In this modern world, aren’t you so lucky because your partner is choosing to love you no matter what? However, if your partner cannot forgive you right away, that only means, you don’t know how deep the cut you had caused her/him. On the flip side - gentlemen, heads up! Your woman’s face glows differently, beautifully, when you are taking good care of her heart. A strong relationship is built on honesty, trust and commitment, you should always choose to protect the relationship with your partner and strengthen it. Words to ponder: If you find yourself questioning a person’s loyalty, it’s either you stay loyal, or you stay away.

(E-Sender Two)

Dear Eve Roséy,

I’m 31 and never had a boyfriend. I also think that I will never find a boyfriend. I have been looking for love but it seems like love is hard to find. I am losing hope, what shall I do?

Thanks, Victoria

Dear Victoria,

First of all, be joyful, because you are saving yourself from a lot of heartaches. Girl, you know I’m right (see the above discussion). Being single at the age of 31 is a blessing, it is special, you are special. I’m sure many people would give anything to be in your shoes. Now, calm yourself and hear me. Love can be experienced at any age. Let go of that fear of never finding a boyfriend. Do not stress yourself too much about it because you have plenty of time to find what you’re looking for. I believe that God will give you that special love when you’re ready. But for now, love yourself first. Accept your flaws and start believing that that special love comes in an unexpected place, at the right time, in the right place - I bet you heard these lines before. Therefore, never rush love (read my book – The Bossy Babysitter, available soon), being single gives you more time for yourself. Save money. Travel to places you’ve never been. Build an interesting life. Meet your friends at a coffee shop or a restaurant, have a social life. Chances are, you might find Mr Love in places like these. Be open to possibilities and what you hope for will follow. Hope is your last hope (read my book - Secret Flame, available now). Smile. You’ll never know who will get attracted to that smile of yours. There’s always a good timing when it comes to love, you know. So, don’t get so hard on yourself because you are not alone. There are other people out there who are also looking for love. Yes, they do exist. Just continue with a happy life and enjoy the small things in life. Sometimes, you will meet someone when you stop looking. Another piece of advice: please stop molding in your head the type of man you want to be with in the future because this is one of the reasons why finding love is distant. Remember that God will create someone good for you. But for now, bear in mind that being blessed with a single life means you can focus on your aspirations because no distraction pulls you away from your personal development. You have the freedom to choose spending time with family and friends who are a good influence in improving your life and contributing to your well-being. Food for thought: Keep your heart healthy and happy. 

I hope you are all satisfied with my answers to the questions of our e-senders, Anonymous and Victoria. A special thanks to both of you. xoxo

Until my next blog, gorgeous! 

With love,

Eve Roséy

ER Jar of Notes: “Grow. Learn. Glow” ~Eve Roséy~

In simple words, what do you think is the best definition of friendship? I’m sure some of you would say something about loyalty, trust, being supportive or simply fun as it makes life better. For others, you can count on them at your darkest hours. To a few people, it is one of the hardest things to define or explain. 

When it comes to friendships, it takes effort to make friends or keep friends. It can be challenging to build and maintain quality friendships.

Here is one of my answers to the true meaning of friendship: it should give you a sense of belonging because feeling included in a group is beneficial. It’s wonderful to experience that positive feeling, knowing that you matter to others, that you are ‘someone’ and not just an unidentified face in the group. 

How many genuine friends do you have? Tricky question. Real friends can sometimes, or most times, get misinterpreted. Now, give yourself some time to think of someone in your life who fits in any of the descriptions below. These are the kind of friends you would like to have in your life. Let’s take a look at why these are important. Surely, there’s something here for everyone. 

True friends are:

Good listeners. Be an ear to listen. This is one of the most effective forms of support. Show your friend that you are there to listen and understand, most particularly when you’re going through a difficult time. 

Honest.  They speak up if they are concerned about you. Having an honest circle of friends is valuable, especially when you need a reality check. As an example, they will tell you whether you look lovely or unattractive, even ugly in that dress you’re wearing – without making you feel down. They help you identify areas for growth and improvement. Don’t be oversensitive to the mockery because real friends are also instant mood boosters, they add humor to the situation, they cheer you up with some words of wisdom. The next thing you know, you’re having a hearty laugh with them, again. Besides, talking things over with a supportive friend can help you boost your self-esteem and develop confidence.

Trustworthy. Sharing your secrets, experiences or feelings is safe with them. Breaking their trust is something you must not do. Bear in mind that friendship is as strong as it is fragile. It can either lead to success or doom. In other words, you should completely count on one another. 

Loyal. Through thick and thin, they choose to forgive you even when you are wrong. That’s what makes friendship worthy. They get to see you at your best, worst and in between.

Helpful plus motivators. They offer help or assistance so you can cope with stressful situations. They inspire and encourage you to try and learn new things, step out of your comfort zone and overcome your fears, even in times of confusion and doubt, so you’re able to strive and achieve your goals in life because they know your true potential.

Your cheerleaders. They celebrate small and big wins, bringing out the best version of yourself. They help you grow, both personally and professionally.

Easy to talk with. They offer a shoulder to cry on and make you smile later. You are comfortable to share your strengths and weaknesses, your worries and concerns, your flaws and all. Their positive energy transfers into your well-being. 

Non-judgmental. Open-mindedly, they understand each other’s perspective, especially if you don’t always agree.

Helping you bounce back from life’s challenges. They will encourage you to take care of yourself, physically, emotionally and mentally.

Helping you age gracefully. Do you agree? I do. It’s healthy to form close connections with people who bring you joy. You’ll realize that age is just a number when you are surrounded by friends who help you combat loneliness, and you are less likely to suffer from depression and isolation.

Nowadays, true friends are hard to find, sadly. I don’t want to make it sound silly or sarcastic, but I think finding a true friend is challenging. It’s even harder to make new friends as an adult, hoping that you both have similar interests. But come to think of it, there’s probably only one or two that comes to your mind when you think of your best friends. In some cases, you have moved somewhere far away from friends you grew up with in high school – this could become an obstacle to maintaining friendships. Albeit the equal effort and support that’s put into communicating with one another through social media platforms, is still a challenge to keep the friendship going and keep the bond strong. Essentially, life is becoming so hectic and most people are pouring their time into work and less, or not with friendship.

True friends should add positive meaning to your life. So, be a good one, be a true friend.

On the other side of the coin, how do you know if friendship is fake? Unfortunately, this is far too common, we’ve all been there. So, here are some warning signs to spot fake friends:

…they make you feel low and drained; leaving you feeling emotionally exhausted

…they gossip/speak negatively about you behind your back to mutual friends

…they do not respect you; they humiliate you in front of others

…they are jealous of you; they try to compete with you; they are envious of what you have 

…they are being inconsiderate of your feelings

…they do not appreciate your achievements; they show little interest in knowing your accomplishments in life

…they make you feel less worthy

…they are only supportive when it benefits them; they are only interested in what they can gain from you

We know that not every friendship is a healthy friendship. If you want to increase your chances for happiness and success in life - select your friends, carefully. As a piece of helpful advice, gradually distance yourself from fake friends to minimize their impact on your life. Remind yourself that you also deserve a real friend. Note: Not all that glitters turn out to be gold. 

Furthermore, negative friendships can make your stress level high, so high that it can also harm your physical, emotional and mental health. It’s very true. Contrary to this, spending time with friends produces a multitude of long-term physical, emotional and mental health benefits.

Another question: how many friends should you have? You don’t need to have a large circle of friends. A small circle is fine, as long as the love is genuine and immense.

I’m glad you have reached this far by reading this month’s blog, I am so proud of you!

Whether your friendships are known as Amigas or Amigos, the peacemakers or the troublemakers, Frenemies or F.R.I.E.N.D.S. Whether you are Monica, Rachel, Phoebe, Chandler, Ross, Joey, or Gunther or even Janice, we should celebrate the special adventure of friendship in all walks of life. Take a moment to think about your true friends, and maybe, send them a text message and thank them for choosing, accepting and loving you for who you are. Make someone’s day. Go on, put a smile on their faces. I’m sure it would mean a lot to them. 

If you want to share your thoughts or you need advice on something e.g. love, friendship and relationships, you can email me at everefriend@gmail.com. I am going to pick one question or two from any of the emails I received, and I will post your question together with my answer/advice in my next blog. Please see the below examples:

\ My name is Delilah. I’m 28 and still single. Question: I never had a boyfriend. Is something wrong with me? 

\\ They call me Lottie Lou, 33, married. My question is: how to keep romance alive, and rekindle the flame in my marriage life?

\\\ From Anonymous. I am writing on behalf of my friend. She is 45 and in a complicated relationship. She heard about her partner cheating on her… do you think she should confront him about it? 

Note1: Please know that you agreed and allowed me to post (as detailed above) in my blog if your question had been chosen.

Note2: Please know that it’s no trouble to write a few sentences, or a short paragraph in your email to further explain the situation you are trying to point out. 

Note3: Please know that I am not going to post your email address in my blog as I sincerely respect your privacy.

Perhaps you’re wondering why I am doing the ‘question/answer’ portion in my blog. It’s because I do believe that sharing your thoughts about love, friendship and relationships could help others to ease their sufferings and reflect on the possible solutions. Whether it is love confession or wild confession, my advice might serve as a dose of your monthly lessons in life or love. So, let me take your mind off all the stress, even for a while, and discover other perspectives on love, friendship and relationships, and hopefully learn from them. 

I am looking forward to receiving and reading your emails. I would love to hear your thoughts! xx

With love,

Eve Roséy

ER Jar of Notes: “Surround yourself with friends who accept you for who you are and who make you better.” ~Eve Roséy~

The subject this month is quite sensitive. Before you read on, please take a moment to pause and take a couple of deep breaths - you can close your eyes if you want to, then ask yourself – how am I feeling right now? Be aware of your emotions. Are you happy? Sad? Excited? Relaxed? Annoyed? Upset? Nervous? Angry? Or are you not paying much attention to how you feel right now? That’s normal. We all experience these types of emotions. As we take notice and accept any of these emotions, we can make wise choices about how to act and how to manage (negative) emotions in times it happens again.

Feelings

“It’s okay not to be okay.” Have you heard these words from your loved ones? Friends? Colleague? Or maybe from a stranger? Happiness, stress, frustration, sadness, anger and joy are some of the feelings that can be experienced in life. Did you experience having butterflies in your stomach during a job interview, or before you performed on stage for a dance or singing competition, or did you feel excited to watch your favorite film? These emotional experiences are correlated to body language and facial expression. Besides the physical sensation, emotions influence the character of a person, decision making and preferences. However, feelings are created based on these experiences, whether physical or emotional, we let them sink in. Let me give an example, the characters in my books are feeling jealous, which is a natural adaptive feeling, nevertheless challenging – here’s the thing, an open talk could help reduce the feeling and being mindful about it is vital to avoid unnecessary suffering and emotional incompetence. I would suggest reading my first book “Secret Flame” because you’ll get insights into this complex feeling called jealousy. You’ll also find the triggers for envy in my other book and hopefully, it’ll help someone to cope with these thoughts and feelings. As you know, learning is an essential part of life. For a start, let’s practice gratitude – pay attention to what you have, rather than what you don’t have.

This question just entered my mind - how does writing help my mental health?

There are a few things inside my head right now, but let me start by saying that one of the most generous, kind, intelligent and inspiring women in my life who marked a special place in my heart holds the first reason why I continue to write. She always knew what was best for me, I guess. Even in the afterlife. *Smiling, I look up in the clear blue sky and I know she’s smiling back at me. She had had dementia for years. I’m getting flooded with emotions right now. I’ll share that part of the story, one day. But just to satisfy your curiosity, writing helps me to explore my emotions in parallel with releasing negative emotions. Why do I choose romance [fun-loving] & [18+bonus] story? Because I love enthralling happy endings. Who doesn’t? Unless you’re reading this blog with a tearful, broken heart. Chin up and stay beautiful, girl. Your tears are expensive. You must not give them to someone who’s not even worth a single drop. Besides, if I am going to write a story with a sad ending, I’m sure a rainbow will appear at the end of every great thunderstorm. “If you want a rainbow, you gotta put up with the rain” ~DP~

There are more than two hundred types of mental illness. It is accepted that mental health is crucial in every phase of life, from childhood and adolescence through adulthood. Mental health includes emotional, psychological and social well-being which affects how you feel, think and behave. As you would expect, the difficulties could be painful and sometimes severe. 

I gathered three of the most important mental illnesses that are common in a child, a teenager and an adult:

Anxiety disorders include social anxiety disorder, separation anxiety disorder, panic disorder and specific phobias. In general, it involves persistent fear and worry about daily specific situations and can impair a person’s family, school, social or working life. Remember the important tools called the three C’s – (1) Calming techniques involve slow-deep breathing exercises and meditation which promote a sense of relaxation and reduce stress (2) Coping strategies aim to replace anxious and negative thoughts with positive ones; regain control over your thinking approach by using a positive affirmation that emphasizes your power such as “I am competent and in control of my peace” (3) Communication skills prevents misunderstanding and unmet expectations. It is understood that being overwhelmed with anxiety could disrupt the natural flow of conversation with someone you seek for support. It’s better to tell the person you feel comfortable with about your concerns and be open about it than pretend you’re okay throughout the conversation. Do not overthink. Be confident and true to your feelings.

Bipolar disorder is a mood disorder that includes intense, constant anger or difficulty controlling anger and irritability. It is also frequently mixed with anxiety. A person tends to overreact and lash out verbally or act aggressively, they can get angry with little provocation. Having their feelings validated is one way to help the person calm down. I know it’s not as easy as it would be. But you can also offer support by trying to understand and just listen to the person’s viewpoint. Another thing, asking to write down thoughts and feelings in a notebook/paper, a short sentence or a simple scribble could release overwhelming emotions. Drawing could also transform emotions that are difficult to put into words because it gives a clearer picture of what’s going on. It might help decrease mental distress and reduce the intensity of emotion. Note: One of the best ways to express oneself is by journaling your thoughts, feelings and more. Don’t hold those thoughts, expose your inner feelings to lift that heavy weight that you carry. It also regulates your emotions and encourages emotional healing. Read my second book “Shadow Heart” and see the Inclusive Peek at Helena’s Diary. 

Depressive disorder or depression can happen to anyone. It can lead to more stress. Sometimes, a person may feel as though everything is harder to do and or life isn’t worth living for. Others may feel generally miserable, sad, worried, empty or numb, without really knowing why. Depression is treatable. Self-care can play a crucial role in managing its symptoms, and exercise is as effective as antidepressants in helping you feel better. As I mentioned in my January blog, exercise is a stress reliever and it can improve mood, so please stay physically active. Furthermore, get enough sleep and eat a healthy balanced diet. I mean, we are all human, we are vulnerable to illness. But we need to find our strength regardless of our health status. 

Note: If mental illness symptoms last for more than a month, the family should reach out to a healthcare provider. Please understand that people who have lived through severe loss, abuse and other adverse experiences are more likely to develop any of these mental illnesses.

If you or you know someone who is struggling or has concerns with mental health issues, please seek help. You can openly talk to your parents, a close relative/friend or a trusted adult, your doctor or other healthcare provider. If you’re a student, it’s okay to ask for support when you need it, a school counselor or a therapist can help you make good choices about your health. If you or you know someone who is thinking about hurting themselves, please call or text a suicide 24/7 hotline as they offer free help straight away.

I am not an expert on this subject. However, I understand that mental health problems are real, and they can be treated. I am feeling concerned for anyone who is experiencing mental health issues. With some people, it is like a creepy shadow that keeps following you. But you are stronger than you realize. Why? Because you have the power, you are capable of overcoming these struggles. Tell yourself that you also deserve a life free from mental health challenges. Act on it. I know you might take time to focus on it but it can help you feel more in control of your thoughts and emotions. Please seek help/support. I believe that it is worth a try. Do not give up. It may be difficult, but it’s worth it. Moreover, please practice self-care including exercising, engaging yourself in a hobby, spending time with your loved ones and other things that could help nourish your body, mind and soul.

Sending virtual hugs to you right now. You are not alone in these struggles. xoxo

With love,

Eve Roséy

ER Jar of Notes: “Treat yourself with kindness.” ~Eve Roséy~

We’re in the seventh month, the halfway point of the annual calendar. Whether you’re still on a New Year’s health resolution checklist or just trying to eat a healthy diet, we are going to talk about healthy and unhealthy food. Bored of knowing what’s healthy or not? You’re not alone. But if you want to live longer and look and feel healthy, then you must eat healthy food. No excuses. Okay, perhaps just this time - if you’re eating a bag of crisps while reading my blog, that’s your treat for this week/month, right? I know, I’m wrong. Of course, you’re a little naughty, I mean, life is busy, and you just couldn’t resist. It’s junk food. There’s a reason why it’s called junk food. Dearie! As if I’m not guilty. Enough with munching and mumbling, let’s carry on reading.

Do you know what happens to your body when you eat healthy every day?

Your body will begin to crave the healthy foods you consume and you are giving your body what it needs to function well. It also supports your mental health and boosts your mood. Nice!

What is healthy eating?

It means you’re following a healthy eating routine and you’re making a smart mix of food choices that includes a variety of nutritious foods and drinks.

If you know that you should eat healthier, why do you have a difficult time doing it? Is it because healthy foods are expensive, restrictive and or not tasty?

However, consuming food is essential to our well-being and overall health.

These foods include:

Vegetables

First of all, it’s a superfood, packed with vitamins, antioxidants and minerals. Dark leafy vegetables like spinach (please, don’t be like Popeye), broccoli, cauliflower, kale and root vegetables like crunchy carrots and sweet potatoes prevent sickness and support your immune system. You can add those veggies to salads, wraps, sandwiches and omelets. They are low in calories and fat, making you less likely to develop chronic diseases like diabetes and heart disease as well as reducing your risk of cancer. Not only that, it keeps your eyes healthy and it helps to reduce signs of aging. Eat your greens!

Fruits

Berries, more delicious berries (frozen is also fine). They are rich in antioxidants and disease-fighting nutrients. “An apple a day keeps the doctor away.” True. Different colored fruits like bananas, avocados, pears, kiwis and oranges are full of nutrients too. You can add them to your favorite smoothies, yogurt and cereal. Delicioso.

Oats

Yes, you read it right. If you want to keep your cholesterol in check, eat oats because they are low in calories. Oats are a nutritional powerhouse. For breakfast, I usually add honey and walnuts to a cup of oats with milk. That’ll keep me full until lunch, thanks to its soluble fiber.

Legumes

These are beans, lentils and peas. All are high in protein and fiber. It also helps reduce blood sugar levels and improve gut health. I like red kidney beans in my chili con carne and chickpeas in my salad. Yum.

Fish and seafood

Good for your heart and brain - eat salmon, anchovies, mackerel or sardines. They are high in omega-3 fatty acids and a good source of protein and iodine. Additionally, shrimp and tuna are low in fat and calories but high in protein. Note: Tuna and mackerel should have a low mercury content. Please check before you buy. Also, raw and undercooked fish or the same high-risk foods should be avoided during pregnancy.

Dairy

Say “cheese”. Let’s add milk and low-fat yogurt. They are rich in calcium and can protect you from osteoporosis, and of course, they help your bones and teeth strong while the ‘good bacteria’ can protect your body from other harmful bacteria. Note: It’s possible to go dairy-free, just ensure to eat balanced meals and include calcium-rich food in your diet.

Nuts and seeds

Snack with a handful of satisfying nuts and seeds every day and reap their numerous benefits. Pecans, walnuts, almonds, pumpkin and chia seeds are your next best friends. They assist healthy body weight because they are a great source of nutrients such as protein, zinc, vitamins and minerals. They support brain health and keep your skin radiant and healthy as well. Let me have some bites of goodness. Note: Be aware of nut allergies or intolerance.

Tea

One of the most beloved beverages for centuries. There is tea for everyone. Whether it’s black, white, chai, herbal, matcha or green tea, there are many (caffeine-free) flavors to suit your palate. Each variety has its own unique quality. It has powerful antioxidants, it acts as an intense hydrator for imbalanced skin and it combats various health issues. Which one deserves a spot in your daily routine? Imbued with energy and mental focus, plus a detoxifier – for me, green tea is a superstar, no doubt. 

Additions: Cucumber, celery, tofu, brown bread/rice, lean meats and poultry (less oil/salt), eggs (preferably boiled)

Eating healthy food may lower your chances of developing high blood pressure, high blood sugar, heart disease, stroke and many others. But keeping yourself active is vital too. Note: Please read my January blog to help you stay active.

Limit your sweet food intake to special occasions only. Can you do that? Of course, yes! Please give yourself a tap on the back of your shoulder for being an inspiration and a role model to others. No? Please give yourself a tap on the head to make you understand that life is short and today is the beginning of eating healthy foods. I know, it’s hard. No matter what, just keep trying. You can do it! Isn’t it nice to experience that every day is a special occasion because we are alive and healthy?!

Reminder One: The extra treats! Cakes, desserts, pastries and biscuits – plus takeaway foods (you know what they are!) - pizza and hamburgers are examples of foods high in saturated fat and added sugars/salt. They should be eaten occasionally. Also, alcoholic and fizzy/sugar-sweetened drinks should be taken in moderation (if you are trying to stop drinking them – I’m proud of you!). Furthermore, try to avoid fried and processed foods. Or else, your risk of gaining weight and developing chronic disease increases. Wait. What about those very tempting chocolates? All I can say is, just don’t get into the habit of comfort eating. On the flip side, good quality dark chocolates are also best consumed in moderation.

Reminder Two: Drink plenty of water (with lemon – yes!).

Remember that under-eating, overeating and not exercising can lead to unhealthy weight and body conditions. It is somehow overwhelming to think about your eating habits, that’s why you need to be mindful of what you eat and drink. Note: Guideline Daily Amounts or GDAs are your guide to what you can consume each day for a healthy, balanced diet. 

Food is not the enemy. It’s you. You need to consume food in the right portions because your portion size matters. Do not eat too fast or for emotional reasons. Your self-control and self-discipline should be your best buddies. Always maintain a healthy lifestyle by doing what is right for your body.

It’s never too late to start eating healthily. If you want to feel great every day, feed your body with healthy foods to stay alive and kicking.

Healthy food, healthy life, healthy you. xx

With love,

Eve Roséy

ER Jar of Notes: “You are what you eat.” ~ABS~ (see initials - how ironic)

This month’s topic is all about roses as they are in full bloom at this time of year. It also reminds me of my third book – The Bossy Babysitter, a captivatingly cheerful love story that conveys passion and warmth of love. 

If you were born in June, then the rose is your birth flower. Tagged as the popular wedding month, it was dedicated to Juno, the Roman goddess of marriage. Roses are not only a traditional symbol of deep love, passion and romance but it is the most favored choice of flowers on the big day of saying “I do”. Imagine yourself standing and walking on the scented rose petals down the aisle at the ceremony that evokes memorable emotions, you’ll remember it for the rest of your life!

As wild and extraordinary as a rose, a touch of uniqueness and royalty.

The beauty and elegance of roses inspire me to write about the enchanting princess roses that were bred merely for the Emperor of Japan. 

These unparalleled royal beauties include:

Rose Princess Aiko – with a lighter touch of coral, it epitomizes a beloved one and mirrors love and respect

Rose Princess Hitomi – the contrast between embracing sophistication and the innocence of youth, similar to crisp pink cotton candy, you wouldn’t want to forget the history of its beauty and bewitching fragrance

Rose Princess Kaori – a mysterious yet enthralling bluish lavender shade, its outer white petals render an exquisite scent

Rose Princess Kishi – a dramatic deep cherry red that frames for long and happy life

Rose Princess Maya – sparkling with radiance and loveliness, its classic curly light peach petals are a secure blanket of comfort, it ushers you to walk up and down the aisle that showers with confetti of commitment and solidarity

Rose Princess Meiko – a vibrant pink hue that glows with joy and sends a ray of sunshine and grace

Princess Midori – with a distinctive zealous green tone, it highlights fine bouquets and accentuates floral arrangements 

Rose Princess Miyuki – as bracing as white snow, its intricate scent holds the sweetness and fervor of the earth

Rose Princess Sakura – with a dazzling bright peachy pink bloom, it takes a shine to a cherry blossom that blends with the delectable shade of peach guava, it stands out itself

Rose Princess Suki – it embodies a loved one, this striking rose has a fairly round shape with an appealing layer of cherry and yellow colors

What type of a rose princess are you? Does it depend on your mood, on how you feel about yourself? Whether you like a romantic red rose or a flawless white rose, there sure is a rose that’s perfect for you.

I would love to visit Japan. I can see myself taking pictures of their wonderfully beautiful flowers and finding my tranquility within one of Japan’s peaceful sea of flower gardens. Oh dear, it would be nice to post those pictures here on my website.

Let’s pause for a moment and think about the expression ‘stop and smell the roses’… now it’s time to do some actions. I’ll let you take your time to relax and focus on what’s now rather than what’s next. Just pay attention to what’s right in front of you, to what’s going on around you. Look around you. Are you enjoying the little things in life?

Right now, in the back of my head, there is too much to do and I don’t have enough time to do them. Then I thought about bees. Strange. Not. So, am thinking - do bees stop and smell the roses whenever they nest in the folds of rose petals? Or do bees pause and take a rest for a while to appreciate the sweet scent of their well-loved wild roses? Maybee.

What about you? What’s all the rush? Do you need to reflect on your blessings? Go on. Reflect. Focus on the beauty of your heart – every time you hold a rose, who do you plan to share it with? Clear your mind. Feel the perfect storm of positivity and release that ballooning pressure in your head that could lead to mental and physical challenges. As we all know, life will always have ups and downs. We need to accept that everything is temporary and changing. Acceptance comes with understanding, without getting worried or feeling burdened. The world has more than enough problems already. Whenever you feel upset or troubled, you’re adding yourself to the problem. Trust the process and appreciate life. Be grateful for what you have and keep breathing peace. Just breathe. 

With love,

Eve Roséy

ER Jar of Notes: “The lure of love, faith and hope lingers on a rose.” ~Eve Roséy~ xoxo

I’m thinking that you are already aware that Mother’s Day is celebrated on different days in the USA, in the UK and all around the world. It is a celebration of our beloved mother and motherhood. A wonderful celebration to honor mothers and mother figures, and appreciate motherhood in all its forms. This Mother’s Day, it is all about your mother who supports, nurtures and loves you.

As a special tribute to my dear mother, I wrote an extra special poem for her this Mother’s Day. I just want her to know that I am always proud of her and I hope that she’s proud of me too. My mother loves to read, mostly poetry, I still remember her collection of Shakespeare books. As you can see, I dedicated my pen name to her because it’s my way of saying, “Thank You” and “I always remember you”. I hope I’ll get two thumbs up and a smile from her in heaven.

Eve

I especially dedicate this poem to you

To let you know I always think of you

Every time I listen to one of your favorite songs called Vincent 

It reminds me of your tender smile and how you sang along 

“This world was never meant for one as beautiful as you”

Your golden voice sent me a message 

That through your hard times and disappointments

Deep down you never wanted me to go through them too

As the rhythm of your voice continues

I wish I knew what hurts you then

What makes you feel happier 

What makes you constantly laugh 

What keeps you away from loneliness

At times I failed to foresee them

Who else would understand

The sacrifices you made

The mystery of your pain

The sadness you endured

The burden of shaking your worry

The highs and lows of motherhood to you

Your fear was filled with endless heed

You struggled, you tried not to make me see them

I was then foolish not to perceive

Despite all the heavy heartaches

And the scars of your shortcomings

You’ve given me so much

I never heard you complain

It made me pause for gratitude and appreciation

You were not perfect

As I was to you

This takes me back to my childhood

You had your hands full

You baked cakes, you cooked the food 

I helped, I learned, I waited, I prayed

It inspires me to see your great effort

A lot of ways that show you care

You’ve taught me so much

I just hope we have more time

I wish I held your hands longer

To know how it feels to bear the gift of your comfort and home

With open heart-to-heart talk

Sharing our unspoken love 

And feel the warmth of incomparable happiness

I still thank you for the tacit words of love

It broke the stone walls of misunderstandings

The bond we had was in each heart of hearts

Now I am older and wiser, I better comprehend

The silent look in your eyes

The hands that showed protection from harm

The unshed tears I knew then were for me

To save and protect me from the troubled world

Plagued by envy, greed and animosity

They shaded common joys and praises

You could be the most lovable, or the worst 

You forgave and trust again

You carried them with grace and strength

Your tenacity was admirable

Your unconditional pride, your praiseworthy brilliance

Your accomplishments and self-motivation

I portrayed them as a reminder

And a promise to keep up for good 

Beneath all the pain and misery

Maybe God saw you getting tired

You raised your hand 

To hold the comfort of His hand

And get back the strength of power He gave you

To take the fruit of your spirit 

To rest in peace, joy and goodness of His love

Because God had a better plan for you and me

It hurts as you are no longer here with me

I look up into the boundless sky 

With thoughts of your gaze on my face

I shed these muted tears

As your memories live on

All the life lessons I tend to keep

I will always keep them locked

From the bottom of my heart

I never asked God for a perfect mother

But if in the next life I live again

I would never blink to wish it was you again

I will take the place of your daughter and you as my mother

Perhaps then you will hear me say I love you oftentimes

That I miss you every day

And I will tell you again

The love I have for you as your one and only daughter

Is pure and for eternity.

With some, Mother’s Day is celebrated in different forms. Please remember that you’re not alone. 

Happy Mother’s Day…

…to those who have lost their mother or mother figure

…to mothers who have lost a child or children

…to those who are expecting

…to single mothers

…to new mothers still adjusting to motherhood

…to those unable to carry a child

…to mothers who lost connection with their child or children

…to those with two mothers

…to those yearning to be mothers

…to those mothers who adopted or fostered a child or children

…to those who have strained/complicated relationships with their mother or child

…to those who had to mother themselves and grow up quickly

…to pet mothers who care for animals with love

I am thinking of you all today. xoxo

Sending love,

Eve Roséy

ER Jar of Notes: “Always cherish your mother because mine has gone forever, and I miss her every day.” ~A~

Are you in the mood to read? What are you reading today? What is your favorite book, or books, so far this year? Why do you love to read? Was there a time when you challenged yourself with a different genre of book to read? Are you in a situation where all your family and friends are busy and you’re there – alone, in your sanctuary, holding your truest friend in two hands, rescuing you from being lonely and taking you to a wondrous imagination you don’t want to miss? A book. I am talking about that book in your hands. 

Can you remember the last book you finished? We all know that life gets in the way of a lot of things. Yes, we’re all busy and reading a book could take a lot of our time. In a different situation, you’ll probably say, “Which one will I choose? I don’t know what to read!” The answer is simple - read what makes you happy.

Here are some good reasons to read a book:

• It takes you to imaginable adventure

• It keeps you mentally alert as you age

• It provides a way to escape from rushing through life

• It expands your vocabulary and improves language and communication skills

• It’s a source of fun and entertainment

• It can reduce stress and help you relax

• It leaves a mark on your heart and lessons in life

• It could uplift your mood and give you inspiration

I believe that when you’re reading a book, it is like watching live television in your head. Through words, you create the images inside your mind. So, let’s dive into your vivid imagination… 

On a quiet afternoon, an elderly woman sat on a rustic wooden bench while looking at the swell of ruffled waves crashing onto the stony bed of seawater. It was another Sunday that held a promise,  another sunset that held a dream, another memory that held a tear. It’s been five decades and here she was, still waiting, and hoping. She looked down and her forlorn eyes caught the elegant red tulip brooch that she delicately pinned close to her heart. 

A weak smile spread across her thin lips. “You never failed to make me feel young my dear Edward, until this day”. She blinked a few times to fight back the tears. 

A soft breeze lightly blew through her salt-peppered hair when she heard someone softly call her name. “Stella”. 

Such a wavering voice sent instant solace and joy to her heart. 

She slowly looked over her shoulder and finally met the most beautiful hazel eyes she had seen in her life. “You came back.” A tender smile lit up her face. Her smiling eyes roved over his crease face and his silver gray hair. But one thing was certain, he was the same man, the same Edward she loved and waited for half a century.

“I never said goodbye…” He showed her a folded small piece of weathered paper. It was a short poem that she briefly wrote before they parted ways fifty years ago. “I-I lost my wings…” His voice cracked. “I’m taking her back this time.”

His words moved her to tears. “Come and sit with me.” She extended a hand to him.

He gently took her frail hand and kissed the top of it. “I’ve been waiting for this day to come and see you.” He didn’t let go of her hand. “Do you want me to read this for you?” He opened the hardly wrinkled paper.

She smiled. “Yes, please.”

To my Edward,

I am your wings

Like a rare butterfly 

Delicate yet wild

I soar freely in the sky 

It doesn’t mean that my love goes astray

My feathers flutter to cherish you

With you, I can dance in rhythm and harmony

So long as you and me will return 

To each other’s loving arms

Only yours,

Stella

“Thank you.” He slightly pressed her hand.

“For what?” She kept smiling.

He cleared his throat. “For waiting this long…” His face flushed and his eyes welled up. “You’re still keeping it.” He looked at the brooch that he gave her in exchange for the poem that she wrote for him.

“Like the red tulip, I always believe that your love for me is true.” Her words brought a big smile on his face. 

“Like a butterfly, I am not complete without wings - your wings.”

“The time is on our side...” She held his hand tightly. She would not let go. Not again.

He held her hand tighter. “Now and forever.”

This time, no one was letting go.

From then on, they will enjoy the gift of being together, once again, for a lifetime and the next.

This melancholic scene could transport your emotions to an imaginary world. It also creates an in-depth emotional connection between the characters and the reader. In a nutshell, the reader absorbs a sense of shared experience with the character’s emotional state which in turn can lead to boost empathy. Conversely, when you bottle up emotions or you are unaware of some sorts of emotions, reading becomes an outlet for you to feel a range of emotions that you are unable to express in real life. The bottom line is that you continue to experience the way the writer sees the world and how the writer perceives what is happening within the story. Another thing to remember is that you have more control over a book because if you don’t understand or if you miss something, you can easily go back. So, how does it feel to lose yourself in the writer’s story and connect yourself with the characters? Once you find the answer, you will know which book is for you.

Moving on, get to know me a little right at your fingertips…

You’ve probably heard this phrase, “If you are looking for a book to read and you can’t find it, then you must write it”. Exactly. This is one of the reasons why I got into writing romance novels. My books are more than just a love story. Not just a love story that evokes literary emotions but a love story wrapped up with a spark of fun. Yes, I like to add a touch of humor to my characters. I figured it just flows naturally. Why? Because I want to put a little more happiness into your world.

[18+] The intimate scenes in my novels, however, are an essential part of the storyline. At some point, it made me stop and think that those scenes must fulfill their intentions. After all the reflection, I am staying in my characters’ heads and exploring the different facets of their desire. Considering it requires a lot of time and effort to complete those sensual scenes. Why do I write them? Why not? I mean, I tend to think that I have the talent for it. I wouldn’t want to waste it. Would you? Besides, who doesn’t want to run their wild imagination from time to time? Nope, it’s not holding me back as a writer. My novels are a whole lot more than intimate scenes. I am proud of my writing and I am shouting it from the rooftops! If you’re also a writer, be proud of yourself and your work. And please, carry on writing!

‘With love comes pain, jealousy, suffering, distrust, fear, hope and happiness. It is not all red roses or whispering sweet nothings.’ I love writing romantic, fun, passion-filled novels. And if you’re one of the lovely readers who gets to read my novel – “Thank You” - you’re one of my inspirations. Please, continue and enjoy reading my novels.

Ah, the dedication, care and love I put into writing novels. The dark circles around my eyes are proof of the late nights and early mornings I spent in one book and another. Yes, I feel happy to have discovered the joy of writing. Why would I feel ashamed about something that gives me joy to write, and read? To each their own. 

One thing is for sure, I learned to follow my heart and write what I love.

With love,

Eve Roséy

ER Jar of Notes: “The more you read the better you’ll write.”xoxo

“What’s your sign?”

Ever heard of this question before? Maybe on a random chat with your friends or on your first date?

“I am a Sagittarius. I would love to travel the world.”

An hour later you’re both getting to know each other more. How nice!

If you are tantamount to believing Astrology, please go ahead and read the rest of this blog.

These are only a few notes of how people around you perceive you, based on your zodiac sign.

I bet you are familiar with your sign because you would not be reading this if you were not curious to find out what the stars are saying about your personality, and perhaps learn a little bit about yourself. It could be true or not. So, let’s have a quick read of yours, and his or theirs, whoever you want to check out.

The ram, the bull, the heavenly twins,

And next the crab, the lion shines,

The virgin and the scales,

The scorpion, archer, and the goat,

The man who holds the watering pot,

And fish with glittering scales.

~ IW~

Here are some of the views that describe your personality. Let’s see if you can relate or is it just a coincidence?

Aries (The Ram/Fire Sign): March 21 – April 19

“Let’s do it!” Sound familiar? Yes, you are so energetic, Aries. And you tend to act first, take risks and worry about the consequences later. A bit aggressive and impatient but mainly because Aries rules the head, you are built to compete. Your passionate nature already scored you to win. And it won’t stop there as your pool of energy is limitless. You like the heat of vitality, driven by your heart and desire.

Bonus: Ladies, please don’t give in too soon - a bit of playing hard to get wouldn’t hurt. Let the “bad boy”, I mean, the Aries man chase you in a way that thrills him to bits. Let him take charge from time to time. He craves action till it burns to the heights of fire. Words of advice: be bad and be good.

Taurus (The Bull/Earth Sign): April 20 – May 20

Hello Taurus, you are stable and have a strong sense of responsibility. You seek to live a quiet and comfortable life. Whether you are at your best or in distress, you impressively hold your head high. You are emotionally strong and your resilience is admirable. Despite the odds, you always persevere. You can deal with anything thrown your way and you work hard to complete anything you set your mind to.

Bonus: Ladies, a Taurus man is just waiting for you to make the first move if you want to try something new. He will take it nice and slow. Niiice and slooow. No rush. Trust him. Patience is the key. You’ll get rewarded in the end. Words of advice: pillow talk.

Gemini (The Twins/Air Sign): May 21 – June 21

The witty chatter. The social butterfly. That’s a compliment! Okay, so you’re a Gemini who knows very well what needs to be said and what not. Conversely, you can be grounded one minute and back to enjoying chit-chat the next. You like to stay busy at all times and you always look for strong-willed people to communicate with. Super curious as a bee, you like finding new things to learn and experience.

Bonus: Ladies, if you like to hang out with naturally chatty and flirtatious men, look for a Gemini. How to win his heart? He would prefer to show it to you rather than speak of it. Breathe. Warm-up. Speed up. Go with the flow. Words of advice: be adventurous.

Cancer (The Crab/Water Sign): June 22 – July 22

It’s amazing to know that you are one of the caring and hardworking signs, Cancer. Also, resourceful in handling finances yet cautious about spending it all at once. You are skilled at problem-solving. You have a desire to feel loved and appreciated but if someone interferes with the security of your family or close friends, you tend to take a swing – you forgive but you never forget. You are often the glue that holds families together.

Bonus: Ladies, if you want someone to protect you and are not shy to take good care of you – a Cancer man whispers, “What are you waiting for?!” His arms are your home. You get the picture. Don’t worry, he is gentle too. Words of advice: don’t shy away and please listen.

Leo (The Lion/Fire Sign): July 23 – August 22

If you please, take center stage, Leo. Your strong presence is hard to resist and your confidence is a valuable asset throughout your life. Your dedication to your work calls for perfection and creativity. You are known to be proud and driven, feeling like you can accomplish your wildest dreams by believing in yourself.

Bonus: Ladies, to make a Leo man fall on his knees for you, you must be worthy of his royal treatment and you are willing to give the same back to him. He rules over the heart. As long as you both treat each other right, he will certainly stick around for keeps. Words of advice: feel special and follow your passions.

Virgo (The Virgin/Earth Sign): August 23 – September 22

Perfectionist is your other name, Virgo. Your meticulous attention to detail and sense of order is incredible. You always strive for the best outcome, constantly. You are so curious that you will continue seeking intellectual growth as you age. It’s awesome you have the need to feel useful and you have a quick fix for everything.

Bonus: Ladies, are you tidy? Just kidding. No. I mean, if you’re after a sensual Virgo man, you cannot find them looking up – look down because a Virgo man is not looking for a temporary affair. He is the most loyal lover of all the zodiac signs – lucky you! Beware though, he can find deceitful people easily. But once he falls in love, a Virgo man will show his affection in ways no one can ever imagine. Words of advice: pay attention and learn.

Libra (The Balance/Air Sign): September 23 – October 23

Charming, you are, Libra. You have a pleasant demeanor and can adjust to different situations which makes it easy for you to get along with various social settings. Peace and harmony are your vibes. You love a good debate and you’re a quick thinker, and open-minded too. You will stand up for what you believe in, weigh all options and look on the bright side when trying to make a decision.

Bonus: Ladies, if you want to get turned on by the size of a Libra man’s *hmmm* brain, he is one of the first in line. What were you thinking? A smart Libra man? Yes, he always knew the right thing to say, not only because he’s an expert communicator, but a passionate lover too. Lend me your ears – a Libra man loves being in love. No games. Yes to dirty talk. He will please you – in every way, before his own. Sounds like an ideal lover. Sounds about right? Right. Words of advice: focus please, focus.

Scorpio (The Scorpion/Water Sign): October 24 – November 21

It’s getting intensely hot in here. Yes, I’m talking to you, Scorpio. You have such an extremely calm yet magnetic presence. “You see right through me” sounds a bit extreme but that’s how you are, your eyes can look straight into someone’s soul. You have good judgment and you can weigh up situations very well. You’re not a baby to be pampered but a natural force to be reckoned with.

Bonus: Ladies, this mysteriously sexy Scorpio man is a devoted lover. His charisma could ignite and turn into the best fireworks you’ve ever had. Red alert. He loves dark red. Why? Because it’s sexy - like him. Words of advice: embrace the mission.

Sagittarius (The Archer/Fire Sign): November 22 – December 21

Take me to a new adventure, free-spirited Sagittarius! You adore globe-trotting to explore and discover what life is all about – simply intellectual, the seeker of truth. Finding time to explore and spending time in the great outdoors does wonders for your mood. You’re generous and kind. You love keeping active and making time to laugh alongside friends and family. You are the friendliest human being at the heart of any party. Everyone should feel fortunate to have you as a friend.

Bonus: Ladies, a fiery adventurous Sagittarius man will of course explore everything in his den, beyond imagination. Do you want to read some more? OK. He is always, always ready. Anywhere. Remember, he is a restless wanderer. If you’re down for a ride, you take the initiative and he will love, love it. How irresistible! Words of advice: go crazy, go wild.

Capricorn (The Goat/Earth Sign): December 22 – January 19

The professional, hardest worker. You shine, making a mark on the world, Capricorn. Seriously. No nonsense work. You are firm and practical. You keep everything together and you can shoulder the weight of the world. However, there is something about you that is reserved or guarded, but once your wall breaks down, your heart opens up. Also, you know that it takes a lot of discipline and hard work to be successful.

Bonus: Ladies, a Capricorn man is a wild one. He will show you how to do it well, so very well to please - you. No drama. No wasted time. He will take charge. Seriously. Words of advice: be versatile and just do it.

Aquarius (The Water Bearer/Air Sign): January 20 – February 18

Mystery is kept in a box or think outside the box? That’s you, Aquarius. Both. You like to be different. Unique and unpredictable but independent, you can take care of yourself. Do not underestimate Aquarius, because you care to mingle with people from all walks of life no matter what age or background. You will respect the point of view the other person holds but you will defend your beliefs to the end. While you are highly sociable, you are also compassionate toward the ones you love most, you are always ready to help them.

Bonus: Ladies, focus. An Aquarius man would like to try something new. The weirder the better – period. Words of advice: keep going.

Pisces (The Fish/Water Sign): February 19 – March 20

Question: What is your superpower? Answer: Empathy. Isn’t it right, Pisces? Imagine taking on everyone else’s emotions. Your emotions are as deep and endless as the ocean water. You can feel and see things that go beneath life’s façade. You cultivate a plethora of knowledge from observation and experience. You are a caring giver in a world of takers. You’re a selfless dreamer. Music, art and poetry are part of your life. You are imaginative with a vision to bring it to life.

Bonus: Ladies, you’ll be more in love with the idea of love. Says who? A Pisces man. He is incredibly intuitive, he already knows what you want before you even ask for it! A hopeless romantic. It’s like a fairy tale romance. Of course, with an otherworldly thrilling happy ending. Words of advice: turn dreams into reality.

So, how did you keep up? I got you. *smile

Believer or non-believer, reading about your zodiac sign is just a fun way to look at the cryptic universe beyond us. This is not something you have to believe in or not. Everyone is unique in their own way. A Capricorn could be the most serious individual on earth but it doesn’t mean that a Sagittarius couldn’t. Just because you belong to the same zodiac sign doesn’t necessarily mean that you are all the same. At some point, you might be thinking that the environment that you grew up in has a powerful impact on your personality traits, your habits, your beliefs and so on. The family plays a crucial role in determining who you will become, especially when a member of your family has excessive control over you, on how you define yourself in the world. Sounds like a compromise, I know. But as you grow, you meet a lot of people who could influence your part of growing and learning. You might ask yourself, “Does my relationship with my family affect my character? I wonder why my grandmother always reads horoscopes every day?” Well, that’s another story to tell.

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With love

Eve Roséy

ER Jar of Notes: “You can fall in love at any time of the day, month or year.”

It’s love month sugarboo! February is especially dedicated to all lovers, friends, family and pets or your favorite classic glazed doughnut! This is the month for heart-shaped chocolates that represents the idea of love and affection. However, a love heart is not always a sign of being in love with someone special, but also being in love with yourself. It is not all about romance, but also about self-love and self-care.

This is going to be a lengthy war of conversation and I need to take notes of every definition of love. A long and winding road called love.

What is love? What is your love quote this month that helps you put your feelings into words?

There is a lot to talk about when it comes to love. Love is endless. No pun intended.

Are you looking for love? Are you one of those people who are waiting for Cupid’s arrow?

Everyone is worthy of love. But what if love is hard to find? Do not fear nor worry if you haven’t met that special someone. If you believe that you will find the right person, surely you will. Still in doubt? Do not feel discouraged because love comes when you love yourself first. Yes, it’s the truth. No, it’s not selfish.

Love is always one of the popular things to manifest.  Let us explore how the law of attraction manifests love.

ATTRACT

Using the power of thoughts, close your eyes and carefully visualize the love and relationship you desire, believing that you are worthy of love, and embracing that the universe is working in your favor. Do not feel ashamed to focus on the physical attributes of that person because I totally understand that you might be looking for someone who has good looks - for instance, comparing that person to your celebrity crush or your hunky neighbor or a gorgeous hottie friend - of your friend. However, think about the good qualities of a partner instead of relying on physical attributes (I didn't mean to blemish the image/scenario you created in your mind that you wished to have a connection with). Reflect on being optimistic and focus on positive emotions. Why? Because positivity attracts positive energy. Conversely, if you ask for sadness, you are most likely mirroring sadness, it repels positive energy – it repels love. If you have unresolved issues from your past, do not let yourself be trapped in them. It may not be easy but look through rose-tinted glasses. Try not to fuss about it. Do not overthink and please don’t act miserable – you already know it’s unattractive. Heads up! Let love find you. Let the magic power of attraction do the work for you. In other words, it merely responds to what you are feeling.

BELIEVE

Before seeking the love you desire, you need to ensure that you have cultivated self-love. There is no denying that self-love is crucial. “Me time” is part of it. Look after yourself. Prioritize yourself and see yourself as someone important too. You can use positive affirmations like, “I am worthy of happiness and I am grateful for what I have. I embrace a stress-free life. I am beautiful both inside and out”. By loving and accepting yourself fully, you are emanating a positive energy that naturally attracts someone who evokes the same positive feeling. Remember: your self-esteem affects how you see yourself. Be happy and confident and enjoy living the life you choose. Therefore, to keep the faith rolling, once you radiate positive energy, you attract positivity, effortlessly - like a magnet. It's up to you to live the life that you deserve. Then you’d realize that heartbreaks, fear and rejection are also part of life anyway. Here’s the thing, the universe will not show us more of what we can handle. Just believe in bringing your heart’s desires to fruition.

RECEIVE

Feel gratitude. The word fear no longer exists. Instead, muster up the courage and appreciate yourself. Open your heart to love and act on it. The universe will intentionally give you a sign and show you the way to love once you are ready. Sometimes, love comes when you least expect it. You’ll suddenly find yourself being guided to the right place at the right time. And when that time comes, buckle up because you’re going to experience a good ride. Always stay true to yourself and the universe would put your deepest wishes together and reward you with it. So there, you have to believe it, to receive it.

There are times when we think we are hitting the end of the road and we feel quite disheartened because of not finding that “missing part” of our life, but deliberately the universe is telling us to take another path.

To some people, love is not something that can be easily defined. Each individual has their own experiences when it comes to love. But one thing is certain, everyone only wants to be loved.

This Valentine’s Day, whether you and your loved one are living together or are worlds apart, express your language of love by saying meaningful words of support and encouragement, and sincere compliments. Feeling very romantic? You can also send heartfelt text messages or handwritten notes/cards with a lovely love quote, and or speak a tender “I love you” that comes from the bottom of your heart.

Express and impress as we add an extra layer of charm by saying this romantic phrase “I love you” in different languages:

In Afrikaans – “ek het jou lief”

In Albanian – “unë të dua”

In Arabic – “’uhibuk”

In Chinese – “wô ài nî”

In Filipino – “mahal kita”

In French – “je t’aime”

In German - “ich liebe dich”

In Hindi – “mujhe tumase pyaar hai”

In Indonesian – “aku mencintaimu”

In Italian – “ti amo”

In Japanese – “aishitemasu”

In Korean – “saranghaeyo”

In Norwegian – “jeg elsker deg”

In Portuguese – “eu te amo”

In Russian – “ya tebya lyublyu”

In Spanish – “te amo”

In Thai – “chan rak khun”

In Turkish – “seni seviyorum”

You got it? Sweet! Go on, tell that someone special how you feel! Celebrate Valentine’s Day every day and make joyful memories.

Let this be your guide and a reminder to stay in love: 1 Corinthians 13:4-7

So, you are single. Nothing is wrong with being single. Don’t worry, your turn is coming to find love. Go and celebrate Valentine’s Day in style at a cozy restaurant or enjoy the comfort of your home. Eat and drink (We are human! Don’t feel guilty about craving and just enjoy your food, then move forward and help yourself to a drink of your choice). Watch your favorite romantic (comedy) film (happy tears taste sweeter) or listen to lively music. One of the timeless songs that entered my mind right now is, “What is love, Baby don’t hurt me…”. Sing like no one’s listening and dance like nobody’s watching! Turn up the volume and move your head for good vibes!!

{ER pulls the wand from thin air} 

“Bibbidi-bobbidi-boo”.

Always believe in a little magic.

With love

Eve Roséy 

P.S. Love is far more complex. How can we ever define what love is? We will talk more about this precious word called “love” next time. For now - spread love and peace, every single day. xx